Asking a question is usually about sharing and not about answering the question as specifically as possible.
Asking a question is usually about sharing and not about answering the question as specifically as possible.
If you are feeling unable to follow the protocol or conform to the rhythm, acknowledge it and bring yourself to the place where you can participate most fully — be real and in the moment.
It's a privilege having enough space to constantly consider what someone else is going through.
Watching myself take care of myself.
[Multiple examples and analogies, as opposed to just one, help illuminate variability in the application of a concept.]
[Negative transfer refers to memorizing something in the wrong context; almost like functional fixedness. Positive transfer refers to the successful application of a concept to a new context.]
[People can misinterpret short-term failure as an indicator that they don't belong. Help them re-frame it as simply setbacks and nothing more, provide models of others who felt similarly in their situation.]
[Mitigate stereotype threat by emphasizing how people have multiple identities and focusing on the facets that are in-group.]
[Feeling a social connection or group belonging increases persistence on challenging tasks.]
Next time somebody comes to you with a feature request, try this: "Can you tell me a story about a time that you wanted to do that and what you had to do instead?" The first part of the question gives you proper context. The second lets you evaluate the loss.
How did you find these possible solutions?
Why not just keep doing things the same way?
What was happening that made you feel it wasn't working?
Perhaps we cannot be fully aware of the outcome of anything.
Try to appreciate that things are in movement on a larger time frame. Focus on the process. "It's not what I want" or "It's not what I think it should be" is focused on the outcome.
[Spaced repetition systems can be a form of attention programming: if I like a question but have nothing to respond at the moment, I can schedule a review in a few days; if my review was fruitful, I can review it sooner to add more; if my review was not fruitful, I can review it later to try again.]
[Executable strategy: doable, predictable effort to carry out, little effort to select and plan, more of these activities bring you closer to the goal.]
[Social media doesn't have the equivalent of an open workspace where you can see people's process. Those who stop publishing become invisible. Those who publish constantly are prominent.]
I can listen to myself. I can acknowledge my own pain more precisely than most people. I have the time and flexibility to be present.
[It is possible to validate every note if it resolves.]
Set an example for other people by openly talking about your insecurities without feeling weighed down by then - to be aware of them, to speak about them with detachment, to share them without being dominated. Set an example that there is no shame in doing that or need to feel like you might be rejected.
What can we normalize with our actions?
Tell people who you are.
Try to recognize and affirm the unique qualities of each person you meet.
The opposite of insecurity is to be comfortable with yourself, your attitudes, your way of thinking - to exist as you are without justification.
Pay less attention to the stories and more to intuition, shorten the gap between feeling and acting.
violence can be functional to the interests of Washington and big capital, as it weakens popular capacity to rebel against hyper-exploitation, extractivism and quotidian oppression.
Love never expects anything in return / Love knows only giving / Giving and giving / Without even waiting for a thank you
Attachment to a specific outcome blinds you to all the other ones.